Reaching out

During this Covid-19 lockdown, I have noticed there is a lot of reaching out to others.

I have noticed this for myself and with prospective clients old and new.

We are biologically wired to connect and here now in this time of staying at home, with few actual real face to face people to connect with, parts of us are seeking that connection.

Some times this reaching out results in a connection that is taken forward, sometimes it’s just explored. It doesn’t matter, it’s the reaching out thats important.

Back in the day it was the reaching out, that was often interupted or ignored, so you were not seen, heard or noticed as you might have been.

This happens for many reasons, there is a page on website about it called unmothered children.

A few of the reasons for this are parent or caregiver had their own issues, mental health problems, domestic abuse, drugs, alcohol or others addictions got in the way.

In other words the parent or care giver was managing best they could, with what they had recieved from their parents or care givers, these attachment wounds are also known as generational trauma.

It’s deep and couragous work and you have to be in the right place to tackle it and with the right therapist, I believe we know straight away if the therapeutic relationship is the right one and it’s good enough.

In the Covid crisis, we are back to the bottom of Maslow’s triangle and it’s our basic needs that we need taken care off. Once this current crisis is aleviated, I believe then, many more people will be ready to take these connections further as their central nervous systems will be more robust and not in fight or flight most of the time.

This easing out of lockdown has begun for us in Scotland today.

May it go well.