Getting to the heart of the matter, is why we go to therapy in the first place, isn’t it? To help find the root cause of our current symptoms or upset and to begin to explore that, understand it better and to heal it.
In IFS (Internal Family Systems), one of the goals is to be in Self, to connect to Self, this can also be a spiritual state, 9for me it is), but it doesn’t have to be, it might also be reaching the top of Maslow’s triangle and achieving self actualisation. Or it might be described as being here now, being mindfully. It’s for each of to discover within us what Self means for us.It doesnt really matter what Self is for you, what is important is being connected to it.
In IFS Self, is understood as being in a feeling state of one of the 8 c words (see below). It’s a place of calm, or curious, or compassion etc.
Perhaps it’s easier to say what it is not. It is not being triggered, or having our central nervous system highjacked by old unintegrated memories or emotions.
IFS therapy overlaps with my belief system, I see it as a visionary, creative approach to working, within which there are different ways in which we might heal and as we heal ourselves, we heal each other.
For ourselves and all our relations. Mitakuye O’yasin. As the Shamans say.
In all of the therapies on offer here, there are overlaps- some of these overlaps are known by different names, depending on the therapy being offered. For example, soul restoration, can also parts work, from IFS. And extraction, a form of seperation from an introject in more traditional Counselling/Psychotherapy.
Whatever the words the goal and the aim of the therapy is to enable us to disentangle from what we carry that is not ours, or restore what was once lost to us, through trauma or other means. To find and restore our creative visonary Self energy.